Comments on: Where are all the Christian Single Men? Part 2

By: SWF « Loving Every Minute

SWF « Loving Every Minute — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 03:17:09 +0000

[...] posts that have asked the question “Where Are All The Christian Single Men?” [Pt. 1 ; Pt. 2] 2) Having an entire week off 3) The freight train-esque approach of my 30th [...]

By: JenPell

JenPell — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 20:19:16 +0000

I have been telling people for a long time that once I do get married I want to do whatever I can to help the guys step up to the plate in their confidence level and ask women out if they are interested. I think it’s an absolute sheer tragedy that so many beautiful, amazing, dynamic people are in their late 20’s and 30’s and still haven’t connected with someone in a lifelong partnershp called marriage.

I know that all of us have fears and that has been my biggest challenge recently. I’ve decided to step out of my shell and give it a shot, be open. Honestly, looking back in my 20’s I wasn’t that open and just thought “God will bring Him to me.” I still believe that but I’m an active participant in this. Somehow we have to figure out how to get people connected. Relationships are scary and I don’t fully understand how it all is supposed to work but now that I’m in my mid-30’s, have a wonderful single life but really want to share this life with someone and have children together and build a legacy, it’s really tough to see where to start. Like Drew Barrymore says, “You have to take risks or you’ll have a wasted soul.” Guys, take the risks. Ladies, you too. I hope soon to be able to say it’s worth it.

By: Uncle Dave

Uncle Dave — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 01:10:29 +0000

lol, tru dawn. What I believe is that a woman should show us that she is a woman, show their true colours, and what God means to you. I know personally I find true beauty in women like that. If women just step up to the calling they have received from Christ then I don’t think Mario Kart can captivate a man as much as someone like that would.

There is a blurred line for guys and gals as to what being a woman is. Unfortunately the world has corrupted our minds so much that even the slightest thing that we take to be normal, isn’t what being true is really about. Guys are told what to look out for, and that’s why things are so messed up. Girls think that’s what they need to be like to get a guy’s attention.

NOT TRUE!!!

I’m sure its the same for what guy’s should be like. But hey in all things we all need to read our bibles and learn how to be real, and what sex appeal and sexually attractive really is about.

I know a few women, who are like that and for me I really love them, with a great love, and I could easily date them because of how amazing they are.
But like I’m a lil bit chicken, lol

By: Dawn

Dawn — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 00:35:07 +0000

I’m not sure I can follow through on your first peice of advice- unless for Halloween. I went to bible college – but at Cornerstone video games were allowed. Shoot! (Something to look for in a college, girls.) If I’d only know then what I know now, I would have maybe gone to a more strict, conservative college. So, I can at least follow #3.
I will say though- to the guys, if you ask us out and we’re not interested, please don’t get all offended when we tell you that – instead of leading you on. If you want honesty, be prepared to receive it.
Us girls, we do need to be careful how we act. We should be treating guys as brothers in Christ by lifting them up and acting above reproach. They may not end up as our husbands- but they will be somebody’s and we need to respect them.

By: adam mclane

adam mclane — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 22:18:35 +0000

uncle dave, thanks for brining the real world to this.

I think what I’m learning is that there needs to be less passive flirting and more action on both sides. Instead of “just hanging out” I think someone needs to say, “Hey, let’s go out on a date.” I don’t think if you’re sincere about it you look desperate or slutty, you just look interested in another person.

And yes, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with singleness. But I don’t think singleness and passivity are related either.

By: Uncle Dave

Uncle Dave — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 18:10:38 +0000

You could move to northern Ireland, or maybe Christian women need to be more forward in a less provocative way. Guys tend to be stuck in a little happy place were they are satisfied with all that they have and in some cases Jesus fills that gap.

It is here I would like to say, there is nothing wrong with being single. If God is fulfilling ur life then thats cool. If you go the need for another person then go find one.

So where was I, oh yes, Christian guys have a real ideal person in mind, we are emotional beings you know. We need to know you can support us and keep us going, we need to know that you will be with us through it all (sound like some other guy i just mentioned?)

If we feel that you can make us feel that way then we will come out of our little holes, because WoW brings us satisfaction, we are able to feel part of something and loved in the games.

If you somehow manage to get a Christian guy by showing us what you can do for us, then we will be your life long friend and show you the love that God intended for a relationship. And you will be made a queen before all.

So to conclude, let the guys know that your out there and show them what youve got, in a non- provocative Christian manner of course….

By: Sara

Sara — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 21:32:36 +0000

forget it. I’ll move (right after I order my xbox shirt)

Adam, maybe you should start matchmaking right from your blog.

By: Janelle Painter

Janelle Painter — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 16:38:14 +0000

lol i think what both parties need is massive amounts of communication. Maybe there needs to be more older married guy mentors for the young guys to help guide them into being mature Christian single men that single women are looking for. And i can say the same for young girls as well. i am 27 and a single Christian woman, and i have to say that the only reason i know what i’d like to see in a future relationship was through personal reading and observation. I’d like to see more…guidance? for the young guys and gals so that when they reach their twenties, they know what to look for and how to act? i’ve attempted such a thing through here: http://www.myspace.com/virtuousdating but its just something i threw together. Maybe i should work on it a little more, i’ve just been busy elsewhere. lol and as far as how to speak to each other… guys just need to know that communication is a must and girls want to feel like they are worth pursuing. so yeah, when the guys are stuck behind their video games, it’s far from a turn on. lol and girls aren’t perfect, i’ve seen too many who play too many mind “games” with guys. So yeah, i agree Chris, maybe girls need to be more blunt about their interest in the guy… communication is key.

By: adam mclane

adam mclane — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 15:59:22 +0000

Hmm… maybe I need to host a site that is women teaching men how to talk the right game or something? Maybe I’m onto my next billion dollar idea?

In all seriousness… I’d really like to help figure this out.

Ladies— can you chime in?

By: chris

chris — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 15:56:20 +0000

all joking aside i find it just as hard to find a decent single christian woman. i just don’t run into christian women who want to be married to a pastor. i know i could take care of myself better as far as my weight goes and that in itself is a work in progress.

maybe it’s not that they aren’t out there but maybe we are being too picky. i’m not saying settle to settle either. but yeah i definitely can’t figure out woman talk. i almost need a girl to right out tell me they are interested. haha
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