Comments on: 5 Ways to Fight Loneliness in Leadership http://adammclane.com/2010/07/12/5-ways-to-fight-loneliness-in-leadership/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 02:00:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: loneliness in leadership « hutchblog http://adammclane.com/2010/07/12/5-ways-to-fight-loneliness-in-leadership/#comment-8443 loneliness in leadership « hutchblog Wed, 14 Jul 2010 15:10:09 +0000 http://adammclane.com/?p=6589#comment-8443 [...] through some stuff as I was challenged by a quote that I posted here and then read through a post by Adam that furthered my [...] [...] through some stuff as I was challenged by a quote that I posted here and then read through a post by Adam that furthered my [...]

]]> By: Matt C. http://adammclane.com/2010/07/12/5-ways-to-fight-loneliness-in-leadership/#comment-8427 Matt C. Mon, 12 Jul 2010 17:59:40 +0000 http://adammclane.com/?p=6589#comment-8427 That's true, whenever there are legitimate gripes about church then I really couldn't do that with friends at church -- but of course that has never been necessary so far! ;-) That’s true, whenever there are legitimate gripes about church then I really couldn’t do that with friends at church — but of course that has never been necessary so far! ;-)

]]> By: adam mclane http://adammclane.com/2010/07/12/5-ways-to-fight-loneliness-in-leadership/#comment-8426 adam mclane Mon, 12 Jul 2010 17:38:18 +0000 http://adammclane.com/?p=6589#comment-8426 I think its hard (and potentially dangerous) to form deep friendships in a congregation you're on staff at. I think it does happen over time. But I know I always struggled with having to protect one major area of my life! I could never say to a church friend like I could a non-church friend... "Yeah, I've had a bad day. I'm so sick of this or that." It seems like that level of freedom and honesty that you have to hold back on acts like a block. I think its hard (and potentially dangerous) to form deep friendships in a congregation you’re on staff at. I think it does happen over time. But I know I always struggled with having to protect one major area of my life! I could never say to a church friend like I could a non-church friend… “Yeah, I’ve had a bad day. I’m so sick of this or that.” It seems like that level of freedom and honesty that you have to hold back on acts like a block.

]]> By: Matt C. http://adammclane.com/2010/07/12/5-ways-to-fight-loneliness-in-leadership/#comment-8425 Matt C. Mon, 12 Jul 2010 16:49:27 +0000 http://adammclane.com/?p=6589#comment-8425 Really helpful article Adam. Very timely (for me) too. I think one aspect to consider as well is that building "real" friendship in your own congregation helps keep you invested in your congregation. I have some really life-long relationships outside of my congregation that I cherish deeply. If they were my ONLY "real" friendships then I wouldn't have roots in my congregation to keep me invested there. It's a tough balance though, because the relationship cup fills up quickly -- like you mentioned. Thanks so much! Really helpful article Adam. Very timely (for me) too. I think one aspect to consider as well is that building “real” friendship in your own congregation helps keep you invested in your congregation. I have some really life-long relationships outside of my congregation that I cherish deeply. If they were my ONLY “real” friendships then I wouldn’t have roots in my congregation to keep me invested there. It’s a tough balance though, because the relationship cup fills up quickly — like you mentioned.

Thanks so much!

]]> By: adam mclane http://adammclane.com/2010/07/12/5-ways-to-fight-loneliness-in-leadership/#comment-8424 adam mclane Mon, 12 Jul 2010 16:34:50 +0000 http://adammclane.com/?p=6589#comment-8424 I think that's a logical thing for people who just can't make a healthy FT ministry life work. Good idea. I think that’s a logical thing for people who just can’t make a healthy FT ministry life work. Good idea.

]]> By: Adam Lehman http://adammclane.com/2010/07/12/5-ways-to-fight-loneliness-in-leadership/#comment-8423 Adam Lehman Mon, 12 Jul 2010 16:33:43 +0000 http://adammclane.com/?p=6589#comment-8423 My suggestion: go to part-time or take a second job somewhere you'll rub shoulders with real people. It'll force you to be more strategic with your ministry time. It'll force you to invite more people to take part in the ministry. It'll protect you from living in the Christian bubble. It'll save/make you money. My suggestion: go to part-time or take a second job somewhere you’ll rub shoulders with real people.

It’ll force you to be more strategic with your ministry time. It’ll force you to invite more people to take part in the ministry. It’ll protect you from living in the Christian bubble. It’ll save/make you money.

]]> By: roy http://adammclane.com/2010/07/12/5-ways-to-fight-loneliness-in-leadership/#comment-8422 roy Mon, 12 Jul 2010 16:04:31 +0000 http://adammclane.com/?p=6589#comment-8422 I have struggled with the whole concept of loneliness in leadership, this post is useful to my thinking - thank you. I came across a quote by Long that was useful to me: http://hutchblog.com/2010/05/24/lonely-at-the-top/ Think it is one of those debates that will continue on into eternity! I have struggled with the whole concept of loneliness in leadership, this post is useful to my thinking – thank you. I came across a quote by Long that was useful to me: http://hutchblog.com/2010/05/24/lonely-at-the-top/
Think it is one of those debates that will continue on into eternity!

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