• Big Life, Small Life

    Big Life, Small Life

    Big Life

    From mid-January until last weekend I was on the road 53 days, something like 41,000 miles. Sitting next to someone on a plane or having lunch with a friend, inevitably I’ll hear, “So you travel a lot. That must be a lot of fun, right?

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  • The Wisdom of Seasons

    The Wisdom of Seasons

    This Spring, while we were in Haiti, our team bumped into a young American woman who was visiting Haiti to make a very big life decision. She had met a Haitian man in college, fallen in love, and their relationship had progressed to the point where they were contemplating marriage.

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  • Two Dads Walk Into a Panera…

    Two Dads Walk Into a Panera…

    Back in February, while traveling to Boston, I went to a Panera to grab dinner and catch-up on some email.

    I’m sitting there, finishing up my sandwich, with my laptop open and my ear buds in, when two dads sit down at nearby tables, each with one child sitting directly across from me.

    I switched from “email mode” to “observation mode” by turning down my music in my earbuds and popping open Simplenote to write down some observations.

    What happened was absolutely fascinating.

    Two Dads, Two Meals, Two Outcomes

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  • Here’s to the Lurkers

    Here’s to the Lurkers

    Each day a couple thousand people come to my blog and read one of the nearly 5,000 posts in the archives.

    A thousand or so more read a new post via a blog reader.

    And anywhere from a hundred to a few thousand will read a post (or about a post) on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, or another social media site.

    Over the past 10 years it’s been weird to watch it grow and morph. I remember the first few times someone at church or a school board meeting mentioned to me that they read something on my blog– I was horrified. But now? It happens almost every day. 

    4 Types of Readers

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  • To be Dynamic You Need Tension

    To be Dynamic You Need Tension

    Kicking Butt vs. Counting Butts in Seats

    I’ve been around organizations that are dynamic, where risks are taken, new innovations fly, and the response is incredible.

    And I’ve been around organizations that used to be dynamic, where it seems people are remembering big risks, iteration has taken over, and the response is flat, predictable even.

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  • Leaping Lambs of Innocence Embraced

    Leaping Lambs of Innocence Embraced

    A week ago my oldest turned thirteen.

    Sometimes in life you realize you are rounding a corner while you’re actually rounding the corner… and Megan turning thirteen was one of them. Things are changing for her. How we’re parenting her is changing. It’s pretty amazing to have a front row seat to all that’s changing in her life.

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  • Jackson’s Favorite Things

    Jackson’s Favorite Things

    JT is a little over three years old. Early this morning we had a conversation about favorite things… here are some of his current favorites.

    • Favorite color: Red
    • Favorite animal: Giraffe
    • Favorite animal noise: Daddy’s elephant
    • Favorite number: 10
    • Favorite food: Baby chicks, aka peeps
    • Favorite fruit: Apples
    • Favorite TV show: Paw Patrol
    • Favorite toy: Car

    “Daddy, are you sleeping?”

    “Daddy?”

    “Here’s my foot. Are you awake?”

    “Yes, Jackson. I’m awake again. What’s your favorite day of the week?”

    “Today!”

  • Let’s Admit Some Things

    1. There’s not a church in America, that I know of, that could look me in the eye and say that they are doing an above average job ministering to the holistic needs of adolescents in their congregation, much less their community.
    2. We don’t have a clue how to minister to families, much less the rapidly changing definition of what it means to be a family in our society.
    3. At best, youth ministry needs hearing aids. At worst, we aren’t even trying to listen to what the 95% of teenagers in our communities want or need from a local church.
    4. I don’t know anyone who feels confident in how to best disciple a teenager.
    5. I don’t know anyone who feels confident in how to best do evangelism among teenagers in a post-Christian society, much less an adult who would claim to be any good at it or comfortable with it.
    6. No one is great at gathering local youth workers, offering relevant and timely resources, or creating meaningful collaborative relationships with churches in their community.
    7. Work/life balance is a struggle for everyone in our society, not just those in youth ministry.

    I share all of this as an encouragement.

    We– the tribe of adults who minister to teenagers— need your ideas, innovation, and experiments.

    These are all open questions that we need help addressing.

    We need your collaboration.

    We need your partnership.

    Do not be intimidated. There are people who look like experts. There are people who are more experienced. But the simple fact is that all of the things above are questions we don’t know the answers to.

    It takes a diverse group of youth workers, with diverse interests, with a diverse set of experiences to even scratch the surface on these challenges. It’ll take all of us. 

    All are invited. And all are welcome.

    But let’s all start by admitting, right up front, that we need help.

  • Don’t Get Bored

    Don’t Get Bored

    The other day I was thinking about all of the people I know going through job changes, struggles, and frustrations.

    Work isn’t supposed to be fun all the time. In fact, the Bible promises that work will often suck. (Genesis 3:117-19)

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  • Snapchat Settles with the FTC Regarding Privacy Concerns

    Snapchat Settles with the FTC Regarding Privacy Concerns

    In December and January I received hundreds of comments and emails telling me I was wrong, that I didn’t know what I was talking about, and that I was misrepresenting Snapchat in this post.

    Well, according to a consent decree released today between Snapchat and the Federal Trade Commission, I wasn’t wrong about Snapchat: They really were collecting more data than consumers knew. And images didn’t really disappear quite like their marketing claimed. 

    Here are some highlights of the agreement…

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