Category: youth ministry

  • Open Expands Again!

    Open Expands Again!

    Three and a half years ago I had an informal chat with Jeff Keuss and Brian Aaby about trying out a new idea in Seattle.

    The core idea was simple. “What would happen if we flipped the current youth ministry training event model on it’s head?

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  • In Youth Ministry 60% is an A

    In Youth Ministry 60% is an A

    Being a volunteer in youth ministry is a grindBrian Berry, the high school pastor at our church, explained it like this: “Working with high school students is often like putting in the foundation in a house. Lots of holes get dug, lots of wire gets run, lots of important stuff happens… but you aren’t usually there when the big, visible stuff happens.

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  • Let’s Admit Some Things

    1. There’s not a church in America, that I know of, that could look me in the eye and say that they are doing an above average job ministering to the holistic needs of adolescents in their congregation, much less their community.
    2. We don’t have a clue how to minister to families, much less the rapidly changing definition of what it means to be a family in our society.
    3. At best, youth ministry needs hearing aids. At worst, we aren’t even trying to listen to what the 95% of teenagers in our communities want or need from a local church.
    4. I don’t know anyone who feels confident in how to best disciple a teenager.
    5. I don’t know anyone who feels confident in how to best do evangelism among teenagers in a post-Christian society, much less an adult who would claim to be any good at it or comfortable with it.
    6. No one is great at gathering local youth workers, offering relevant and timely resources, or creating meaningful collaborative relationships with churches in their community.
    7. Work/life balance is a struggle for everyone in our society, not just those in youth ministry.

    I share all of this as an encouragement.

    We– the tribe of adults who minister to teenagers— need your ideas, innovation, and experiments.

    These are all open questions that we need help addressing.

    We need your collaboration.

    We need your partnership.

    Do not be intimidated. There are people who look like experts. There are people who are more experienced. But the simple fact is that all of the things above are questions we don’t know the answers to.

    It takes a diverse group of youth workers, with diverse interests, with a diverse set of experiences to even scratch the surface on these challenges. It’ll take all of us. 

    All are invited. And all are welcome.

    But let’s all start by admitting, right up front, that we need help.

  • May is tough on youth workers

    May is tough on youth workers

    May is youth ministries weirdest month

    • Attendance and interest typically fades.
    • Things like prom, impending graduation, end of the school year studying, spring concerts, and spring sports ending all fit into a tiny window. It’s nearly impossible to program anything.
    • You want to put a bow on your youth ministry year with a party or something, but it often feels like all the air is out of the balloon.

    Danger Month

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  • My 4 goals as a small group leader

    My 4 goals as a small group leader

    As a youth ministry volunteer here’s what I’m not able to do. 

    • I don’t guide the programming or the overall things we do in our ministry.
    • I don’t guide what’s taught.
    • I can’t control the environment, how the room looks or feels.
    • I don’t know every student that comes, I struggle to remember the names of the guys in my group.
    • I can’t be at every youth group event or activity, much less attend sporting events or just randomly show up like I did when I was in full-time church-based ministry.

    In truth, just showing up on Wednesday night for a few hours is about all I’ve got to offer the high school ministry. It is important to me. At the same time, just being blunt, helping in the high school ministry is not my number one priority these days… it’s not the trump card it was when I was on staff at a church or even when Kristen and I were volunteers in our mid-20s.

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  • “It’s Not Taco Tuesday, It’s Worship Wednesday”

    “It’s Not Taco Tuesday, It’s Worship Wednesday”

    A few weeks back, on Ash Wednesday, our mid-week youth ministry stuff changed things up a bit by combining all of the generations stuff into a single worship night.

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  • Youth ministry is ultimately a calling to faithfulness

    Youth ministry is ultimately a calling to faithfulness

    When I was in Michigan for Open Grand Rapids I had the chance of catching up with some families in Romeo. I left that time really, really encouraged.

    For some, it was the first time I’d seen them in almost 6 years. But you know what? For everyone, it felt like a couple weeks when we were last together.

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  • The problem with “We do our own thing”

    The problem with “We do our own thing”

    Maybe it’s just because we’re now publishing curriculum? Or maybe it’s because after 4-5 years of trying I realized that buying curriculum is better than trying to do everything myself?

    But as I’m out, talking to youth workers, I hear a phrase over and over again when I ask about what they are teaching. “We do our own thing.

    Really? You write your own curriculum? Why?

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  • Do we need the subculture of youth ministry?

    Do we need the subculture of youth ministry?

    I spend a lot of my time thinking about how to make youth ministry bigger.

    I don’t just mean bigger youth groups. I mean, “How do we minister to more adolescents?

    18 months ago I posted this infographic.

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  • Should I friend my youth group students on social media?

    Should I friend my youth group students on social media?

    From a Pew Internet focus group:

    Friending teachers and preachers

    Female (age 14): “I think I wouldn’t [become Facebook friends with my teachers]. Just because I’m such a different person online. I’m more free. And obviously, I care about certain things, but I’m going to post what I want. I wouldn’t necessarily post anything bad that I wouldn’t want them to see, but it would just be different. And I feel like in the classroom, I’m more professional [at] school. I’m not going to scream across the room oh my God, I want to dance! Or stuff like that. So I feel if they saw my Facebook they would think differently of me. And that would probably be kind of uncomfortable. So I probably would not be friends with them.”

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