Don’t apologize…

Don’t apologize….
  • For being 39 and loving to hang with teenagers.
  • For giving a student a hug, it might be the only hug they get all day.
  • For pursing a career in something your parents think is a stepping stone.
  • For giving up another career for something most adults don’t get.
  • For loving a job that your boss might look down on.
  • For being bored during the diving part of a swim meet.
  • For going to a soccer game simply to say hi and show your support for someone who isn’t your kid.
  • For liking how bad a freshmen jazz band sounds.
  • For texting info about tomorrows Bible study during staff meeting.
  • For being more comfortable driving a church van than your minivan.
  • For asking for more budget to cover the rental of sumo costumes
  • Or for losing the receipt for the sumo costumes.
  • For knowing exactly how much cash and time it takes to get 15 pizzas delivered.
  • For knowing that one large pizza feeds about 5 teenagers.
  • For practicing games on the XBox during office hours.
  • For bringing your kids on the camping trip for free.
  • For reusing a killer illustration over and over and over again.
  • For feeling weird when the senior pastor rips off your killer illustration in his sermon.
  • For being there when all hell breaks loose.
  • For being a little thankful that hell has broken loose because you know God will use it.
  • For asking hard questions to discover harder truths.
  • For challenging boys to become men.
  • For challenging moms and dads to let go of their dreams for their kids so their kids can have dreams of their own.
  • For representing Christ in places no one wants him represented.
  • For challenging other leaders to think differently about teenagers.
  • For challenging teenagers to think differently about themselves.
  • For asking students to skip band camp for Bible camp.
  • For keeping the door open when a member of the opposite sex is in your office.
  • For asking the secretary to skip her lunch so you aren’t in the church alone with a student.
  • For trying things that are new.
  • For giving up on things that don’t work.
  • For always believing that people can change.
  • For reaching the wrong kids.
  • For reaching kids like me.

Never apologize for being a youth worker. We need you too much. 

You don’t hear it enough. Thanks for serving today’s students. Thanks for investing your life in people the church all-too-often misses. Thanks for reaching kids like me. And thanks for putting up with the stuff you put up with just to keep going.

 

  • http://twitter.com/Pastor_Tank Frank Gil

    Good Stuff!!!

  • http://www.jonathanguenther.com/blog Jonathan Guenther

    Spot on. Except that I’d like to know how you feed 5 students with a large pizza. I’m lucky to get by on a 3:1 student to pizza ratio!

    • http://adammclane.com Adam McLane

      Might want to read up on the obesity problem in America. Just saying. :)  

      • http://www.jonathanguenther.com/blog Jonathan Guenther

        Fair enough. :)

  • http://twitter.com/sexyethics Hannah Adams Ingram

    Both fun and wise. :) Though I was also surprised by the 5:1 pizza ratio. Not at our church! (PS- In this day and age… it’s probably best to leave the office door open when just one teen/kid of either gender is there, unless you have a window on your door. If you need privacy, take a walk or get creative.) 

  • Joel_hawkins

    Pizza math:  take the number of mouths to be fed, round up to the nearest number divisible by 3, divide by 3 and subtract 1.  So, 14 people = 15/3 – 1 = 4 pizzas.  This results in enough pizza that no one has to fear taking the last slice, everyone feels full, and you have a couple slices to put in the fridge for leftovers during the week.

    • Be42long

      Complex yet simple and so wise.  

  • Kcollinsmozek

    I really loved this! Thanks!

  • Eyouthwny (Jay P)

    So we don’t challenge girls to become women?  Challenge all our youth to become adults?  For a variety of reasons (my theology, the fact that I’m the father of a daughter, whatever) that one sided thought is really clanging on my ear and my heart.

    • http://adammclane.com Adam McLane

      Jay, I love you. I get it. I think you well know my outspoken position on women in ministry. (Even on my FB earlier this morning)

      Just know this was written from my personal point-of-view. In my guys small group we make one of our stated goals to help them leave childhood behind and step into manhood. That’s all I meant by that. 

      • Eyouthwny (Jay P)

        Not a problem at all.  Just thought I’d register the thought.  I’m sharing this with my leadership network this week.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=645825312 Manu Bhatnagar

    Printing this out and putting it up in my office! Thanks for the words!

    • http://adammclane.com Adam McLane

      @facebook-645825312:disqus That’s awesome. Thanks for saying that!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=613394050 Jesse Blasdel

    This brought tears to my eyes. Thanks for sharing it.

  • http://www.thesnuffy.com/ Todd Porter

    39!!! Holy cow that is ancient. Oh wait, I’m 39….

    • Joy Cobb

      I’ve been 39 for years now….old & cool… LOL

  • http://www.reyouthpastor.com/ Jeremy Zach

    Do I have to apologize for my hot wife?  and for getting my students to play the game:  The Ultimate Sit up?

    • Be42long

      no and yes.  in that order.
      forget apologizing – get your resume ready.

  • Daniel Dlugos

    This is awesome. Love it

  • http://twitter.com/DerekMansker Derek Mansker

    You know I had that discussion about hugs recently with some people.   Obviously we don’t want to be careful, but I think hugs are important.  As a side, I don’t have an XBox, so I guess that means I don’t have as many things to apologize for, right?