Let my life be true.
That sums up my relational strategy with friends, co-workers, and family.
I keeps it real.
There’s a tendency among ministry folks to put a happy face on everything. Or worse yet to try to put a leadership face on everything. While I appreciate the desire to try to put on a tough exterior the fakeness they exude often makes the insecurity and deep hurt bubble to the surface even more.
In order to keep it real you don’t have to wear your heart on your sleeve. Don’t misread that. But somewhere you need to take off that tough exterior to reveal the scared, goofy kid you are.
Let’s face it– No one in leadership deserves to be there. None of us is more qualified than anyone else. God often puts us in situations where we are in way, often WAY over our heads. While we shouldn’t try to lead from a position of fear… we can’t hide behind our defense mechanisms all the time. Instead, we need to lead from a place of security in who we are and who God wants us to be.
Keeping it real isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s shows you understand you are in the shadow of the Great leader.
Longevity tip: Find a group of friends who you can keeps it real with.
Taking it a step further: I’d love to see a movement of young leaders who commit to one another, “I keeps it real.”
In a world full of fakes the people are dying for Christian leaders who keep it real.