• I’m not all that amazing, really.

    This weekend has been a lot of fun. I think I’ve gotten a total of 15 hours of sleep over the course of the last 4 days… so I am exhausted and still running strong at the same time.

    I spent the whole day on Sunday running from video shoot to video shoot. Meeting heroes of youth ministry, voices new and old. There was a moment around dinner where I thought I was just plain done for. I mean, really… really… tired.

    But then, right after dinner in a sheer moment of madness I got to fulfill this little, somewhat embarrassing dream of mine. I got to shoot some video of David Crowder for the YS Podcast. It was only a few minutes… yet it rejuvenated me to get through the rest of the night. (As if I had a choice!) Like a lot of youth workers I totally dig the David Crowder Band’s music. I think I know why too. In those dark times periodically over the past 5 years or so their music has been my escape. When I was questioning all sorts of things I knew I could always jump in the car and scream, “You are my joy, you are my joy, you are my JOY!!!!” at the top of my lungs. Somehow those moments of shouting helped me. Technically speaking, my favorite song of theirs is Deliver Me. But anyway, I digress from my fan-boyness.

    It was a great time in Pitt. It’s weird to me how different each location is with the same content. I’ve got lots more the say and process but that’s it for now.

  • I get paid for this?

    NYWC Pittsburgh
    NYWC Pittsburgh

    That was my thought last night during the general session. A fantastic night of challenge and worship. All I have to say is that I need a 15 foot disco ball. It helps with the worship experience.

  • Off to Pittsburgh

    As I write this I am in the San Diego airport on my way to my second NYWC as a YS staffer. It’s still pretty cool! Yes, I am going to NYWC as a YS staff person… how cool is that? Yes, the travel away from family end of things stinks… but I still count myself as one of the luckiest men alive to have this job.

    For the next 5 days I get to do what my soul aches to do… tell youth workers from all over that their work is important to the Kingdom. Here on my blog you’ve witnessed my recent deconstruction of some of the things I don’t like about church. This is because I love the church enough to want to see her adapt to the world we live in to reach the people of this day.

    I’ve got a lot to do so I can make no promises about keeping up on my blog. As I write this I’m working on about 4 other hot projects. Everything from booking future episodes of the YS podcast to trying to figure out why Bluehost bricked our websites earlier today. Of course, once things kick off on Friday you’ll be able to catch all the action at our live blog page… but that’s not really the same, is it?

    So, if I miss a few posts it’s only because God is doing amazing things in my midst. To sound extra important, “I’m busy doing the King’s business.”

    I’m fully aware of what I’ve given up in order to do this gig. For some reason hanging out with thousands of youth workers reminds me that I’m not a full time youth pastor any more. And so I invite your questions. Those of you who gave up their “Pastor Adam” for this… what do you want to know about my work in Pittsburgh this weekend? Ask anything and I’ll be as transparent as I’ve always been.

  • From Wall St. to Your Street

    Faced with sobering conditions, companies that issue MasterCard, Visa and other cards are rushing to stanch the bleeding, even as options once easily tapped by borrowers to pay off credit card obligations, like home equity lines or the ability to transfer balances to a new card, dry up. Story

    Just like it takes a few weeks for us to see the difference between the price of oil and the gas pump, the recent crash of the stock market takes a few weeks to filter into our lives.

    And from there it takes a couple weeks to filter from your street to your pew.

    Are you feeling it yet?

  • Cutting Edge Amish

    This morning I was reading a little of Marko’s upcoming book, Youth Ministry 3.0, and one of the early chapters made me think of the Amish. Maybe the Amish have had the solution for a long time?

    My hypothesis is simple. Since adolescence is a cultural phenomenon and the church is called to create culture for redemptive purposes, maybe the church can turn the tide on adolescence elongation in our society over the next generation?

    Factor #1 Sociologically the window of time known as adolescence is continuing to widen. Culture simply gives children a longer time to mature to adulthood. This creates a need for adolescent ministry to stretch from about 10 years old to about 25 years old. Fifteen months ago I posted some solutions to fight the elongation of adolescence. At the current pace, if nothing is done, adolescence may last 25 years by the time next week gets here.

    Factor #2 The church is largely unprepared to help kids walk through the stages of adolescent development faster. With the roles of identity, autonomomy, and affinity to be accomplished before an adolescent is seen as an adult in our culture coupled with churches completely in denial that they can do anything about these tasks… and Christian parents completely whipped by professional adolescents who demand to be cared for deep into their 20s… we can see how the church has become part of the problem of elongation of adolesence in our culture with no real solutions.

    The Amish solution. The Amish do one thing really well. They maintain adult members like crazy! Rather than having young children get baptized and join the church before they are ready to make an independent decision… the Amish encourage a period of running around and jumping… Rumspringa. When an Amish child enters Rumspringa the parents literally allow (encourage?) them to run around and do whatever they want. Explore the world, however they define that. Parents hope that their kids will come back to the faith… and many do… but they also reliquish control over that process, allowing the child to chose the faith themselves. Later, when they come back to the faith they come back in full knowledge of what they are walking away from and in full knowledge of what they are committing to.

    Oh! We evangelicals do much the opposite, don’t we? We would never want our kids to sin! And strangely, some of the most committed followers of Christ I know are also some who tried out the other side of things and came running back to the cross!

    Evangelical Rumspringa. One indictment of the church in Hyde’s Dedication and Leadership is that we don’t call our people to dedicate themselves to the church. (He compares dedication in the church to dedication to communism.) Hyde argues that our standards of leadership are too low which leads to an utter lack of true commitment to the cause. To further Hyde’s indictment, we ask for a commitment to the faith before people are cognitively aware or capable of making a rational decision.

    This leads me to wonder if there is wisdom in giving our students entering college permission to do what they already are doing… but with a stronger purpose. Right now, we expect nothing out of college students. They are involved in churches, even on some levels in church leadership, but once they hit college we allow them to hit the pause button on their faith development. What if we did this more intentionally? What if we said, “Take this time off to go out and run free. Explore some stuff, chase your hearts desire, experiment with whatever you want to experiment with. But make me this promise that on July 1st after you graduate from college you will come talk to me about your faith. At that moment you will decide if you really want to follow Jesus and commit yourself to the cause or not.” This would test our definition of the sovereignty of God, wouldn’t it? For Calvinist, this would test our definition of predestination, wouldn’t it?

    A Secret Revealt… We already do this practically. I know some people were offended by what I just wrote. In effect I just said that the church should give young Christians permission to sin with the hope that they will come back to Jesus. My argument back is that we are largely mislabeling our kids Christians when they are not truly dedicated to Christ in their hearts. They may have made a one-time commitment… but largely we know we are failing to develop a faith that lasts a lifetime in youth ministry. Christian Smith labeled what most kids in our ministries believe as Therepeutic Moralistic Deism. And every researcher agrees that youth ministry, as we know it, largely fails.

    What I am asking is [not proposing, by the way]… Is there value in telling our kids who “don’t really get it” (e.g. about 90% of the students I’ve invested in over the last decade) to take a little rumspringa in college and lets talk about giving your life to Christ on ______?

    As a confessional evangelical, my worry is that we’ve falsely assured some people who have confessed and been baptized that they are “saved for life.“ I worry that this isn’t really true as they may have not really understood the Gospel at all. I wonder if we merely coached them to say and do what we wanted them to do… and somehow assured someone of their salvation falsely? I wonder if an emotional decision made in middle school is enough?

    How can this impact culture? Well, if that theory worked in college… maybe we could start backing down the length of time before we ask for that adult confession of faith? Back it down from 22 to 20? Then maybe move it into high school in a couple decades? Right now… in practice we largely don’t want people involved in ministry until they are married with kids! And for many… that’s 30 years old or later!

    Thoughts? I know I’m on the edge of being labeled a heretic here. Keep in mind these are merely propositional thoughts and not proposals for your ministry.

  • How to respond to critics of your ministry?

    So you’re minding your own business and doing your thing. Then the phone rings and a friend calls saying something like this, “Did you know that someone in the church wrote about you on their blog? They didn’t say nice things! What are you going to do about it?”

    I can understand. For one thing, I’ve been contacted by my fair share of people who aren’t happy about something I posted here on my blog. I’ve even been contacted by the concerned party who was just worried that I might blog about something. On the other hand I’ve seen my fair share of criticism. I’ve been blasted many times on blogs, facebook, myspace, forums, and of course the old fashioned way… church gossip.

    So… what’s Adam’s strategy for dealing with public criticism? I’ll let you in on my secrets. But just keep these secrets between us, OK? I wouldn’t want any f my critics to know how I will respond.

    Secret #1 I see everything. Thanks to the wonder of the internet I am typically alerted automatically within an hour of something posted about me, my family, or things I care about. That means I am almost never surprised by a phone call like I mentioned above. Almost always I’ve already read the critique and decided what I’m going to do! There are both paid and free options for doing this… unless you’re Joel Olsteen the free options should do the trick.

    Secret #2 I ignore almost everything. That’s right. Even the worst criticisms are worth ignoring. Let’s say someone didn’t like what I said in church and they blog about it. Is that swipe really hurting me? Not really. I don’t perpetrate myself as perfect. And I’m big enough to take a couple of shots. I’m also not concerned about “online reputations” too much. If I ran around with a chip on my shoulder about every negative thing being said about me, my people, or my work… I’d end up looking pretty stupid wouldn’t I? Here’s the dirty secret of criticism online: A link is a link. Google could care less if it’s a positive link or a negative link to your blog. All links help your online reputation.

    Secret #3 When a lie resonates, invite a discussion. In my life, about 1:100 criticisms do get responded to because that same lie or critique is starting to pop up on other blogs, discussions, articles, or other places. In other words… if I ignore a criticism 99% of the time it will go away quickly. That’s really the beauty of the internet! There are so many blogs out there that 99% of posts really aren’t remarkable. People read blog entries so fast that chances are no one even noticed the critique. But that 1% of bad things said will get picked up by other bloggers. When that happens I need to think about a response strategy. When I do respond my first step is always to invite a person saying something publicly to contact me privately. I give them my name, the link to the critique, my phone number, and personal email address. If that blog has an email I send them a message there. If not, I leave a comment inviting them to discuss the criticism privately. Some disagree with that, but I prefer to discuss a criticism privately.

    Secret #4 I vent about it, privately. I don’t care how important you are… getting slammed hurts. Even the trivial “who, said what? hahahaha!” ones hurt a little. As a pastor you put everything you’ve got into your ministry so any critique seems intensely personal. I fight my self-righteous attitude to say something here on my blog or to call and demand a person take it back. Further, most pastors don’t realize that they are in the public eye… you may be the most famous person most people in your church know! Here’s the trick. You need some outlets for that anger… and the people around me know full well what this is like. I will read something, make a “huh” little laugh and then talk to one of the people close to me about it. Try it, it helps. that way if I end up responding it is never out of anger.

    Secret #5 Truth always wins. The fact of the matter is that you will do some dumb things. I know I’ve said, written, and done some incredibly idiotic things. If you only ever do safe things you will never be criticized. But the good news is that if you’re a good guy, you’ll always be a good guy. You can’t please everyone and it’s not worth trying.

    Secret #6 There is an ounce of truth in every criticism. That’s why I read them all. WIth an understanding that all criticisms have something to teach me, I think I’m getting a little bit smarter!

  • Paul Garrett




    Paul Garrett

    Originally uploaded by mclanea

    Paul doesn’t often pose for pictures. But today he was quite pleased with himself and stopped for the gem. Check out a lot more pictures of our kids at today’s fall festival.

    Kendra plays with kids

  • 5 Best Online Communities for Kids

    If you don’t have young kids, than you probably have no idea that social networking has really taken off for kids. In fact, I’d call these social play sites. Our kids are completely addicted to them. They are safe, fun, and most of them teach values that any parent would like to encourage. Here are the top 5 in no particular order. Our kids say “We like them all the same!”

    #1 Web Kinz (Cost: Stuffed Animal about $15) Chances are if you’ve heard of one site kids are hooked on, this is it. Parents buy a Web Kinz stuffed pet at a boutique store (like Hallmark) and once home parents create an account for that animal. Kids play games and do tasks to earn money. In turn, with the money the kids can buy accessories for their child’s online version of their pet, feed their pet, take him to the doctor, or even send them on vacation! What I love about Web Kinz is that the site is constantly updated with new challenges. I also love that kids learn a bit about the value of money, earning things, and trading. What I don’t like is that the stuffed animals are $15-20 each and the kids always want a new one.

    #2 Club Penguin (Cost: Free and subscription service) This is Disney’s entry into social networking. There are two levels, paid and free. Our kids only use the paid component and seem to like it just fine. Unlike Web Kinz, a child’s character in Club Penguin is decidedly social. Within their virtual world the penguins can go to a series of different rooms. Our kids love taking their penguins to parties! I love that the kids can play against each other on seperate computers. Snow ball fights abound here in San Diego! As a parent, I like that Club Penguin is a bit more narrative based, too. I often will see Megan reading pages of text. And every day I catch her reading the site’s blog!

    #3 HandiPoints (Cost: FREE Some pay upgrades available on Amazon.com) This is a really cool concept. Instead of games competing with parents to get stuff done, HandiPoints is built around the idea that playing games online is a reward. Our kids love to earn points online by doing chores around the house. Parents have their own login area where they set up their child’s task chart. Megan and Paul each have seperate tasks and they can login to their own area to check off their daily tasks and earn points. With the points you can buy stuff like furniture and clothes for your character.

    #4 Moshi Monsters (Cost: 100% FREE) This kicks the cuteness factor way up! Our kids love playing with their monsters. Kids adopt and name a monster they help create. The more they play that game and earn rewards, the more control they get over their characters environment and personality. Mom and dad don’t really get the point of this one, but kids love it.

    #5 Woogi World (Cost: Free and paid subscription) Our kids dig this site and it has a clear goal parents can understand. “Teaching kids internet safety, life values, and fun!” WW is run by a foundation with a specific goal for the site beyond commerce. So you may want to read up on it before letting your kids join. Individual kids can join, but you can also partner with schools so a whole classroom can create accounts to teach kids about safety. It’s a little like all the rest with a decidely educational and parental bend. Our kids like this one… and I can see teachers and homeschool parents endorsing this one as it is clearly the “safest” for kids, even if it isn’t the most fun.

    What do your kids play? What sites are they hooked on? What sites should I have mentioned?

  • Saturday Tunes

    I think this is the 50th edition of Saturday Tunes. It may not be the most consistent feature of my blog, but it is one of my personal favorites.

    This morning I find myself at my mom’s house in Las Vegas. We needed a car and they had an extra so it worked out. Last night, I took the 40 minute flight from San Diego to Las Vegas. Actually, we sat on the tarmac in San Diego for almost as long as long as our flight because apparently a couple checked in for the flight but couldn’t wait for the plane to take off if you know what I mean. Meanwhile,

    On flight 451 to Las Vegas
    On flight 451 to Las Vegas

    I was sitting in the back of the aircraft with 4 guys who could have come off the set of any Cheech and Chong movie. An early evening flight to Las Vegas is an experience everyone should try… once!

    Later this morning I’ll begin my drive back to San Diego. And since I’m alone these are the next 10 songs I’ll be singing down the highway.

    #1 Tell Me Something Good the Happy Feet Soundtrack ****

    #2 Spin by Lifehouse ****

    #3 Pork and Beans by Weezer *****

    #4 Wink and a Smile by Harry Connick Jr. ****

    #5 Beautiful Day by U2 *****

    #6 Two Lights by Five for Fighting ****

    #7 California Uber Alles by Dead Kennedy’s ****

    #8 When I Said I would by Whitney Duncan ****

    #9 Sister Rosetta by Noisettes ****

    #10 You are Good by Lincoln Brewster ****

    Looks like the first hour of my drive is going to be eccectic. Maybe not as odd as the flight last night… How about you? What is on your list this morning?

  • My blog ate my posts!

    Super quick note regarding missing posts. I don’t know what happened. They were there this morning, lots and lots of comments. Tonight I saw they were gone.

    I was able to report them just now… they were all back dated a bit to try to get them in the right place.

    As for the comments, sadly they are all in the database but not linked to the right post and therefore won’t show up. I am really sad about that because there were so many great thoughts!

    This is total behind the scenes stuff. But I’ll be moving my personal and friend’s blogs to another host soon.