Control Versus Self-Control

  I’m really struck by the expectations put on parents today. A short list of some parental responsibilities: All the basics, like food, and clothing, oh– and a great place to live Unending emotional support Unlimited defense, we’re expected to be like our kids personal attorney + agent Picking the right school, pre-school through graduate school Getting them…… Continue reading Control Versus Self-Control

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Jackson Time

One of the traditions I’m trying to introduce is taking each of the kids on a “dad trip” once per year. I don’t pretend to be a model parent, I do a lot of things wrong– But one thing I think I’m doing well is creating memorable experiences with Megan, Paul, and Jackson. Creating memorable…… Continue reading Jackson Time

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This isn’t The Cosby Show

I grew up with The Cosby Show. Thursday nights on NBC. It was must-see TV. Now that I’m a dad I find myself identifying with Dr. Huxtable more and more. The show managed to capture so many commons things that happen in a family, I find myself remembering the show all the time. Cliff was…… Continue reading This isn’t The Cosby Show

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Christmanticipation

The kids try not to think about it. But there is a growing pile of things under the Christmas tree with their names on it. That pile calls out to them. Each time mom and dad go out and each time the UPS man stops out front, mom disappears into her bedroom and then the…… Continue reading Christmanticipation

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Small Talk

One thing that works for me as a parent is creating [hopefully] memorable experiences. I’m not great in the day-to-day. But I feel like I’m pretty decent when I can do something special with my kids. We used yesterday’s Wooden Legacy Finals in Anaheim as an excuse to hang out together for twelve hours. And…… Continue reading Small Talk

Solo Time

3 hours from now Megan and I are leaving for the airport. We’ll fly to Chicago today where we’ll spend a few days together exploring the city before doing some work Monday through Wednesday. In so many ways the McLane’s are Chicagoans. We both moved to the city in 1994 for college. We met there…… Continue reading Solo Time

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Making Memories with My Kids

I’m not the worlds best parent. But I am pretty good at making memories with my kids. Here’s a list of things you can try.

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Parenting with a goal in mind

Here are some words Kristen and I use to describe our long-term hopes for our kids.  Independent-minded. Dependent on a loving God. Recklessly, hope-filled dream chasers. Happy and simple adult relationships. We jokingly sum up our goal of parenting like this, “We don’t ever want to see our kids on Springer.” That’s not the most…… Continue reading Parenting with a goal in mind