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Life Schmooshing

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How do I keep my private life private with social media?

When I pull away all the onion layers for people learning about social media, this is their core fear. They wrestle with two primary realities.

  1. Why would anyone care about what I am doing?
  2. How do I control the message?

I’m not saying that every person who uses social media has something to hide. But I am saying that nearly every adult is increasingly aware that their use of the internet can be a both an asset and a liability– often times at the same time.

I call it “life schooshing.” When I want to come across as intelligent, I use the phrase “life convergence.

Rather than fight it I suggest you learn to embrace and manage it.

In the past, we could have a public persona and a private persona. And because theose spheres of influence rarely collided it wasn’t a big deal if those lifestyles didn’t line up with one another. A pastor could be a complete Republican hero on Sunday morning, while privately supporting the most liberal Democrats with his money. No one would ever know or ever care to know!

The internet has changed all of that.

Now? You’d be an idiot to try to keep all of these spheres apart. Your high school friends on Facebook will call you out. Your family will call you out. Your church will call you out. Your co-workers will call you out. Worse case scenario, your sins will call you out.

Two realistic choices for dealing with life schmooshing.

  1. Go Amish. Unplug from social media. Don’t have a Google account. Stop using Facebook. Don’t comment on people’s blogs. Pretend Twitter doesn’t exist.
  2. Embrace incarnational living. It’s not a bad thing to have all of your life converge together. Trust me. It’s more blessing than curse. If you truly want to be a person of integrity in all areas of your life… social convergence is a great thing!

What are some ways social media is helping your spheres converge in healthy ways? What are some fears you have? What about concerns of privacy?

By Adam McLane

Adam McLane is a partner at The Youth Cartel, co-author of A Parent's Guide to Understanding Social Media, blogger of 10+ years, and a fan of all things San Diego State University Aztecs.

1 reply on “Life Schmooshing”

Coincidentally, this is an area I struggle in. While I like the concept in principle—in practice it is far more difficult. When I deconverted from Christianity to atheism, I lost every friend I had. (All Christian.) I can understand this; I was a handful as a Christian—as an atheist it was too much strain for the relationships.

Consequently my facebook friends consist of family (they’re stuck with me! *grin*), distant acquaintances and old school chums. Those who know I am an atheist (family) don’t want to read my input, hear about it, or see anything to do with it. Those who don’t are Christians who would likewise abandon the relationship. Equally, I am sure they are not interested regarding my thoughts on certain topics.

So to maintain my sanity, I write a blog allowing me to vent my brain regarding topics decidedly taboo elsewhere, and keep silent on facebook and e-mails to prevent offense.

Admittedly, I’ve been tempted to “out” myself on occasion, but past experience has always, always led to trouble. I am ecstatic to have avenues where I can be…me; to exist in the private persona thus quelling the temptation to pour over in other areas it would not be so healthy.

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