• New Heights Project highlight video

    A few weeks ago I mentioned something our youth ministry does over the summer. We hire a group of high school students to run our children’s ministry outreach program. Here’s a highlight video they showed in church at the end of their experience.

    I’m so thankful for the impact these students had on our community! Of course, they didn’t do it alone. The whole staff of Harbor was fully engaged as well as a big crew of adults from the church as well as some other missionaries from InterVarsity’s urban project.

  • A or B thinking

    Wipeout is a metephor for life

    The thing that I really love about Wipeout is that I can see myself being on the show. There is something about the story of the show that makes me want to insert myself into the narrative. I don’t know about you, but when I watch the show I’m constantly thinking about how I would react to a situation or how I would have done it differently.

    Watching other people fall, fail, and probably get hurt is attractive to me.

    There is something so train wreck about Wipeout that makes it interesting and intruiging.

    I want it. But what is “it?”

    Why can’t I stop watching?!?

    3rd person perspective

    I like it because I am not in it. The reason it is so funny on television is because the people on the ground are in the first person and they are forced to think linear about Wipeout while at home we are in the third person and can see everything.

    They only get to see what is in front of them. They don’t know how other players have completed the obstacle. They don’t have the view we have at home. We are above the action while they are in it.

    They are trying to problem solve the maze of each apparatus in real time first person.

    We are the humans watching the mouse work its way through a complicated maze. When you have a third person perspective, the game is easy and the mouse looks stupid.

    Person after person makes the same mistake and you are left to just scream at the television… “Don’t do it that way! You’re going to fa… Oh, did you see him fall? Ouch!”

    The Wipeout mousetrap forces the participant into A vs. B thinking while the third person perspective clearly shows the answer is either A or B.

    Sometimes the answer is C

    My life is sometimes an episode of Wipeout. Life often feels squished into a maze of A & B choices.

    But I’m learning more and more that the answer in A & B circumstances is actually C.

    • C: None of the above
    • C: All of the above
    • C: Another idea

    This is why life isn’t Wipeout.

    Life feels like a series of A or B choices. And if you get them right, you’ll succeed in life.

    But that’s incorrect. Life is full of choices that look like A vs. B. But C is often the only right answer.

    Stuck?

    I know a lot of people who feel stuck right now.

    They don’t feel like life affords them a lot of options.

    “Do I continue down this path or do I start something new?”

    “I hate my job but the economy sucks and I don’t want to be unemployed right now.”

    The trick is not settling for A or B when the answer might be C.

    The answer is– adjust your perspective.

  • Jalapeño

    We’ve got a large crop of jalapeños coming in. That’s why I was a bit surprised to spot this little red dragon as I was getting ready to pick some other stuff tonight. Most of them are long and green, but this one must have hid under a leaf while it matured and came out short, stubby, and bright cherry red.

    In the next 2-3 weeks we are going to start harvesting 5-10 jalapeños per week. And since I’m the only one in the house who likes things really hot, I’m just not sure what we’re going to do with them.

    That said, Kristen is always quick to find a recipe that matches what’s growing. I’m sure she’ll come up with something.

  • Too much of a good thing

    One thing we are learning as new gardeners is that you have to time a crop so that all of your fruit doesn’t ripen at the same time.

    Right now, we’re sick of yellow cherry tomatoes and summer squash.

    You know you have too much of a good thing when your children won’t pick things that are ripe and your friends won’t take what you are offering.

    Our plan for next year is to be a little more patient in how we plant things. We’ll start seeds at one or two week intrevals so we can better space out our harvest. While we do want to have a lot of eggplant, we don’t exactly want to go from no eggplant to 25 in a week!

    Another concept we are thinking about is to form some garden partnerships. We think it would be fun to agree to grow 4-5 items in abundance with the intention of sharing crops.

  • Swell Season

    The Swell Season, House of Blues San Diego, August 17th 2010

    Yesterday held one of those sweet, unexpected moments of marriage awesomeness. (Get your mind out of the gutter) We came home completely exhausted but having really enjoyed ourselves. (Again, what’s with the gutter thoughts? Knock it off!)

    It all started with an early morning check of Twitter. I had gotten a direct message from a youth worker buddy from New Mexico. It was pretty random, actually. “You live in San Diego, right? Want to see Swell Season tonight?”

    I’m not going to lie. I was confused. I was confused why a guy from New Mexico wanted to know if I wanted to see a concert. I mean, I like music… but I don’t know this guy like that. And the truth was that I wasn’t sure who Swell Season was. Was it a cheesy Christian band I’ve never heard of? The name rung a bell but I wasn’t sure where I knew the band name from and I kind of feared that they were the opener for Hawk Nelson or something.

    A couple of direct messages more and I had the story. Aaron and Heather had come to town to see Swell Season, the band from the movie Once. Yeah, one of the most romantic movies that wasn’t a chick flick I’ve ever seen. And Glen Hansgard and Markéta Irglová delivered my favorite Academy Awards moment ever with their acceptance speech for Best Original Song in 2008.

    Seriously, I just watched that video again and it still makes me cry. Freaking awesome, right?

    OK, back to earth.

    I sent Kristen a quick email. Just sent the link and said, “Do you want to go?” She responded back with a very romantic “YES” and the date was on.

    We met up with Aaron and Heather from their hotel and went over to El Indio for a taco. It was fun to get to hang with Aaron outside of the context of NYWC and to meet Heather. I’ve  got this corny little saying that you can’t really know a person until you meet their spouse. So now I feel like I got to know Aaron in a whole new light and that was cool. The guys talked youth ministry and church shop while the ladies talked about… well, I have no idea because Aaron and I were talking about youth ministry and church stuff!

    From there, we went over to the House of Blues. It’s a great venue which provides a real sense of intimacy between the artist and the audience. The opening act was pretty fun. But he was an opener and I can’t remember his name. (Isn’t that the job of an opener?)

    That guy played his set and then there was a little break where we chatted some more. Then, the main act came up.

    I don’t know really how to describe Swell Season live. I’d heard that they were really fun live and that’s totally true. Hansgard is super savvy at working an audience. He gets them to see along sweetly to his tunes. And the interplay between himself and Markéta is over-the-top romantic.

    They are ridiculously wonderful live. You get lost in their harmonies. They take you on a ride into long and slow ballads only to be lifted out of that pit with a fun song. And, of course, the whole time you are left to wonder… “Are they together?” and “I wonder if this would be a good song to play on the streets of Dublin busking?”

    The show ended late. We drove Aaron and Heather back to their hotel. And we made it home right before both of us fell into a deep sleep.

    A swell night with some new friends and The Swell Season.

  • What motivates people?

    Some stuff to chew on, right? How does this correlate to church leadership?

    We spend a lot of time talking about ownership. But I don’t hear a lot of talk about autonomy.

    Ultimately, church is just a closed system.

  • 4 Types of Youth Ministry Teachers

    Teaching is a core competency for youth ministry. If you’re going to make it… you had better be an above average communicator of God’s Word. Titus 1:9 gives a simple description of a ministry overseer that is tough to escape:

    “He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine and refute those who oppose it.”

    As I chat with professional, full-time youth workers around the country I think I can categorize most of them into basic 4 categories. Forgive the generalizations. It’s not clean and I think people hop in and out of different categories at different parts of the school year and their life cycle in ministry. I think I’ve been all of these at various times in my life.

    4 Types of Youth Ministry Teachers

    1. The artist: These people consider their teaching a craft. In their eyes, their lessons are as much art as a photographer, an architect, or a ballet dancer. They spend countless hours lost in crafting their teaching series, messages, etc. These folks look down on those who buy resources. Though, they may buy stuff occasionally for inspiration.
    2. The time manager: These people understand and were maybe once “the artist.” But they don’t have time for that anymore. They look at their role as a teacher a task and they want to prepare quickly. They are always on the look-out for a quick idea. They love ministry resources, video curriculum, and have a mantra that if they spend a little money on a resource that they’ll spend more time with students and less time preparing lessons.
    3. Copycats: These folks are always looking for someone else’s idea. It’s all equal in the Jesus economy, right? They listen in 6-8 sermons a week to glean ideas… not be taught, they love free downloads and hunt them, and they are always trying to take something someone else did and tweak it for their own use. They may not have many of their own ideas in play, but they’ll also be the first people to label their ministry as “very creative.“
    4. Processors: These youth workers believe that their teaching will be better when they work through the content as a team. So they draft concepts and have a team of friends/volunteers look at it. By the time a lesson is taught, it has gone through 4-5 levels of revision. These people love their process.

    Here’s the kicker. I don’t think any of them are necessarily better or worse than the others. I think they all have a place. And I think each category can lead you to be a better-than-average communicator of biblical truth to adolescents.

    Ultimately, it doesn’t really matter that much which process you use. It matters far more that the message/teaching/lesson is delivered in a way it is absorbed than it is how the message/teaching/lesson was produced.

  • San Diego Beauty

    Last night our community group went to Ocean Beach to enjoy a bonfire.

    Fire, stories, sunset, hotdogs, and s’mores. Dang. Such a cool time.

    It’s nights like that when you have to pinch yourself and laugh a little as you fall asleep.

    I’m thankful for where I live. And I’m thankful for the friends I’ve made.

    Time to write a cheesy Christian song, isn’t it?

  • Nehemiah vs. The American Church

    Photo by Nick Chill via Flickr (Creative Commons)

    I love the audacity great faith brings.

    It’s idealistic. It’s over-the-top. It’s incomprehensibly arrogant simplicity. It’s stupid fun to be around.

    And that’s why I love my church.

    This little church in the city truly believes they can be instrumental in seeing a new San Diego rise up to be an amazing place to live.

    Right now, we’re in a sermon series on the book of Nehemiah.

    As I read the narrative I can’t get past step one.

    Step one of rebuilding your city? Chapter 1… lay on your face and be honest in confessing to God.

    O LORD, God of heaven, the great and awesome God, who keeps his covenant of love with those who love him and obey his commands, let your ear be attentive and your eyes open to hear the prayer your servant is praying before you day and night for your servants, the people of Israel. I confess the sins we Israelites, including myself and my father’s house, have committed against you. We have acted very wickedly toward you. We have not obeyed the commands, decrees and laws you gave your servant Moses. Nehemiah 1:5-7

    What I love about Nehemiah and its message to the church is obvious… it’s not about your church, people. The purpose of the church isn’t to build a little empire. It’s to bring life to a dead and dying city. It’s to see the gospel bring renewal.

    When I look out over the landscape of church culture I can’t help but see that we’re missing step one.

    We need to deal with our own hearts. And we need to focus on the city and not our fiefdom.

    This next passage absolutely wrecked my view of the local church. At the end, when Jesus comes to judge the church, Revelation 2-3 gives us a glimpse of how he judges the church… it should change how you and I do business.

    v. 1 “To the angel of the church in Ephesus write”

    v. 8 “To the angel of the church in Smyrna write”

    v. 12 “To the angel of the church in Pergamum write”

    v. 18 “To the angel of the church in Thyatira write”

    3:1 “To the angel of the church in Sardis write”

    v. 7 “To the angel of the church in Philadelphia write”

    v. 14 “To the angel of the church in Laodicea write”

    In case you missed it. Jesus isn’t judging the work of a single, local church. He’s judging the work of His body in each city.

    Can I get an Amen?

  • Kristen is Blogging Again

    Yup, Kristen has got her blog going again. I know she plans on talking more about our families shift to an organic lifestyle, gardening, shell hunting, and fun stuff for our kids.

    Kristen was a pretty successful mom-blogger when that fad was hot. She got burnt out with all the free product people sent us to review so I think she’s going to avoid that this time around.

    She and I sat down yesterday  to talk about a new look for her blog… let me know what you think. We were looking to create something fresh, open, and elegant. (Yes, the shell is one she found in a neighborhood in Haiti. Only Kristen could find a shell in a path a mile from the ocean amidst all that garbage!)