• Tracking Anonymous Social Media Accounts Back to the Source

    Tracking Anonymous Social Media Accounts Back to the Source

    You aren’t the NSA and you have a problem

    Do you have a hater? Is someone anonymously posting things on social media that are driving you crazy or disrupting your school? Is someone posing as you?

    In many cases, it might seem like you can never figure out who these people are. And, usually, they aren’t doing anything illegal so there’s little the police could do about it.

    I’m going to share a simple way that you can catch most online creepers. Most aren’t that sophisticated, most are just idiots who think they are being funny.

    Last year I shared how I deal with trolls, this year I’m sharing how I track not-so-anonymous accounts back to their source

    A Rat ALWAYS Returns

    I went to a college where pranks were big. It was a conservative Christian college that didn’t allow students to have sex or drink alcohol. We weren’t even allowed to dance or go to movies. With all that extra time, pranking folks was a form of currency.

    And there I learned an important thing that applies to annoying anonymous accounts: A Rat ALWAYS Returns.

    In other words, the fun for the prankster (or troll or bully) is seeing your reaction. This curiosity will point you back to the culprit 99 times out of 100.

    Let’s say someone put something in our microwave for an hour and it burned, causing a nasty smell that brought everyone out to inspect the problem in the kitchen. The person who was there who didn’t fit in… or the random person who walked by “because they smelled something” was usually the person who did it. They were the rat.

    The exact same behavior is true when someone is anonymously tormenting someone on social media.

    You don’t have to be the NSA to track down the culprit because 99 times out of 100, all you have to do is look at who is looking and it’ll point to your rat.

    Mapping Users

    Step 1 – Identify the account

    Might seem too obvious. But you need to isolate the account. Go to it’s profile page, it’s a wealth of information.

    Step 2 – Map the users they engage with

    Looking at the offending profile, start taking notes on who are they engaging with? Grab a piece of paper and identify the first 10 people the account followed or became friends with. Next, identify who they most frequently engage with. Look for social activity like favorites, retweets, mentions, things like that.

    Step 3 – Identify Related “Accounts of Interest

    Once you’ve done that, order the accounts that they engage with the most from #1 – #10. Chances are very high that your culprit is one of those accounts OR they are, at least, friends with them. These are your “accounts of interest.”

    Why? Because this behavior is about social power. And there is nothing to be gained unless other people know you are doing it, can watch it, etc.

    Map the Context / Language

    Step 4 – Isolate the Context

    I find it helps to get the text/images/videos out of the actual app and into another format.

    Create a Google/Excel spreadsheet with a new tab for each incident when the offending account posted something. Create a column for each of your 10 “accounts of interest” associated with the anonymous account. (So row 1 is the names of all the accounts) Next, copy/paste any post from those users around the time that something was posted. Note mentions of the offending message or the person being targeted. Anything that could be in context.

    The point in doing this isn’t that you are going to identify your offender. But you are most definitely going to be able to identify the friend group of the offender(s). You can assume that these people are either together or texting/messaging one another about the anonymous account.

    Take careful note about who is promoting the account to other people. They are vested in other people discovering the account, sharing it as funny or asking other people to check it out/follow it.

    As you sift through this you will see a few accounts who are the closest to the action. These are the most interested parties. They might not be the offender, but they know who it is.

    • When were things posted?
    • What were they talking about before and after?
    • Were there references to what they were doing? Where were they?
    • Were they referring to contexts of things that limited people know about? (Something that happened in a class, for instance.)

    Remember: Social media happens in real time. Context is very important. Circumstances often lead to the timing of what is posted, when.

    Mapping Location

    Step 5 – Map Mistakes

    I can’t believe how often this points directly back to a source. 

    Most smartphones have a built-in GPS. And most social media apps, unless you turn it off, will tell you a location. Scroll through the offending account to see if you can spot any of that.

    Step 6 – Map Images

    If they are posting images they’ve taken, their goose is cooked. Seriously, this is too easy. Download the images to your computer and look at the properties of the image with the image viewing applications included with your computer for free. (In my case Preview) Open the image, click Tools>Show Location Info

    Here’s information about a picture I took at a local grocery store of some duck eggs. 

    If you have this information, you can establish exactly where that person was when the image was taken… but you can also tell the exact model of their device. If you have 10 people you’re looking at, how many of them have a black iPhone 6? Your circle just got a lot smaller.

    Face-to-Face Pressure

    Step 7 – In Real Life

    Let’s say you are an administrator at a school and you need to know who is impersonating a teacher or who is bullying a student. Now that you have this information you have a pretty good idea who to talk to.

    The last step is the confrontation. If you’ve followed the steps above, chances are very high you’ve identified 3-4 people you need to talk to as well as created a paper trail as to why you are talking to these individuals.

    Likewise, let’s say that this behavior has crossed a legal boundary. The information above is easy enough to share with an investigator to give them a fast-forward on doing a criminal investigation.

    Did this help you? Leave me a comment or drop me a note via my contact form.


    This post relates to my social media principle #2: There’s no such thing as privacy online, only perceived online privacy. If you’d like to learn more about that please check out my book, A Parent’s Guide to Understanding Social Media.

     

  • Keep Youth Ministry Weird

    Keep Youth Ministry Weird

    Youth ministry is weird. 

    When planning a worship service for adults you’d never think, “We need a big group game to get people laughing.” Or, “Let’s have a sleep over right here in the church.

    A little too weird for most adults. But awesome for 8th graders.

    It’s pretty rare that adults will show up an hour before church just to skateboard in the parking lot or hang out with their friends. I’ve been in some fun adult small groups, but we’ve never gone to a trampoline park together. Teenagers don’t donate old couches for adults to sit in on a Sunday morning. And, as sorry as I am to say it’s true, it’s pretty tough to get 25 adults to show up to help clean up the neighborhood.

    Silly games, fun nights, mission trips, service projects, t-shirts, bad pizza, over-the-top songs, all-nighters, pointless road trips, winter retreats, just-cos-movie nights, helping at VBS, camp flings… all of these are staples of youth ministry.

    Youth ministry is weird because weird is what works with teenagers.

    If you aren’t a little bit weird you’re a lot-a-bit creepy.

    Tune Out the Tamers

    To me, one of the scariest things going on in youth ministry right now is the desire to tame it. People are so worried about youth ministry being a one-eared Mickey Mouse (not fitting organizationally) that they put a saddle on their youth group and break it.

    • People start to see youth ministry as a great way to market to families instead of a great way to reach teenagers who need Jesus.
    • People worry so much about integrating with kids ministry and young adult ministry that there aren’t really any non-church kids to even worry about integrating… we’re integrating people who were going to integrate anyways. 
    • People preach the Gospel of safety and political correctness more than they preach the Gospel of the Good News of Jesus Christ.

    If you tame it you’ll lose it. If it’s boring the only people who will come are the students whose parents make them come.

    If you finish a night of youth ministry and you didn’t have at least one point of the night where you weren’t sure if it was going to work or if you were going to lose control… you need to tune out some tamers in your life.

    Youth ministry, at it’s best, is weird. 

    Deal with the phone calls.

    Explain it in staff meeting.

    Get your volunteer team to back you up.

    And keep your youth ministry weird, baby. 

    Photo credit: Zorbs by Ian Southwell via Flickr (Creative Commons)
  • Inspiration is for amateurs

    Inspiration is for amateurs

    Amateurs sit and wait for inspiration, the rest of us just get up and go to work.

    – Stephen King

    Not a big Stephen King guy, myself. But I love that quote.

    So true.

  • A Weakness with Formal Ministry Preparation

    A Weakness with Formal Ministry Preparation

    Driving across rural Kansas in December I couldn’t help but be reminded of this fact:

    • In the New Testament, nearly all of the illustrations Jesus used were agrarian.
    • In modern times, nearly all modern formal education happens in the city.

    It’s a conflict that most people training for vocational ministry either completely ignore or they think they can read a commentary which will explain what Jesus was referring to. (Most of these commentaries aren’t written by people who don’t know anything about that stuff either… they are written by people who live in the city but did research from other books about what to put in the commentary.)

    And the implication is that most ministry models emulate a business structure and worship is built around a lecture when Jesus’ illustrations for believers were that ministry should run like a farm.

    But I think most Americans are so removed from agrarian life that they miss what life in ministry could really be.

    And so I’m left to wonder:

    • How can people learn to shepherd a church flock if they don’t know anything about actual sheep?
    • How can you “fish for men” if you don’t know how to fish?
    • How can you “reap a harvest” if you’ve never planted a crop?

    And let’s state the obvious… I’m not aware of any ministry preparation that places wanna-be pastors on farms or commercial fishing boats or herding sheep.

    Instead, we send wanna-be pastors to the city where ministry preparation looks like any other course of study.

    And we wonder why our churches look like businesses, why church workers are comfortable in offices, why they are white collar workers completely missing the blue collar majority of our population?

    He said to him the third time, “Simon, son of John, do you love Me?” Peter was grieved because He said to him the third time, “Do you love Me?” And he said to Him, “Lord, You know all things; You know that I love You.” Jesus *said to him, “Tend My sheep.

    John 21:17

    But most of us couldn’t pick a sheep out of a line-up.

    Photo credit: Deputation by Peter Eskersley via Flickr (Creative Commons)
  • The Truth About Screens

    group-cover-jan-2015

    I had an article featured as the cover story for Group Magazine’s January/February 2015 edition entitled, The Truth About Screens.

    Little old me. The cover story in the biggest magazine in youth ministry? 

    That’s cool, especially when you consider…

    • I got a C+ in AP English in high school.
    • I got a B in both semesters of college English classes required for my major.
    • When I started this blog I had 1 reader… me.
    • Even now, 10+ years later, a normal day on the blog is 2,000-3,000 readers.

    I’m small time. 

    So, while life really is going 10,000 miles per hour, I do want (and need) to stop for a bit and dwell on this. It is an accomplishment and I’m proud of it.

    And I’m very appreciative to Rick Lawrence and the folks at Group Mag for the opportunity to write anything for them, much less a feature. I’m working hard to get published in a new and bigger venues.

    So it feels good. It shows that the daily grind, in the long run, still works.

    Did you read the article? What did you agree or disagree with? I’m looking to improve my writing, what could I have done better? 

  • Cures for the Common Cold

    Cures for the Common Cold

    We’ve all gotten advice when we’re sick with the common cold. Drink lots of orange juice, cover your head, starve the flu, feed a cold.

    And we’ve all rolled our eyes.

    Which of it is good advice and which is just a placebo?

    That’s why I love these videos. They look at the science behind some of these wives’ tales, some of which are completely backed by the science while others aren’t.

    8 Sick Remedies That Actually Work!

    6 Sick Myths You Thought Were True

  • Welcome to Dystopia

    Welcome to Dystopia

    Welcome to Dystopia

    I made this video because I’m sick of the narrative.

    In the United States, the media portrays that we believe teenagers are incapable. They are a sub-human species guided by whims, under the influence of violent video games, and likely to drop their pants to take a selfie of their genitals at any moment. Teenagers are the butt of the joke. They hate their families. They take advice from rap music. And, more than anything, you can’t trust them.

    That is until a teenager does something extraordinary. Then the media flips. They they are hyper-capable superhumans. They climb Mount Everest. They sail around the world. They raise millions. They launch a political revolution. They win a fistful of gold medals in the Olympics.

    I made this video for two reasons:

    1. Teenagers are fully human. They are not superhuman, they are not sub-human. They are just regular old humans.
    2. The Dystopian Narrative is not new. Parents freak out about social media apps the same way their parents freaked out about cell phones or having a TV in your room or playing video games, the same way their grandparents freaked out about them talking on the telephone or listening to Rock-n-Roll. It’s the same exact narrative with a new object of scorn.

    As a youth worker and as a parent, it saddens me that we live in a society that allows our young to be portrayed this way.

    While I live in Dystopia, as a parent and youth worker, I long for something better and more whole.

    I’m sick of it.

    It’s time to call it out for what it is – A narrative designed to destroy perceptions of our children.

    I’m sick of it.

    It reveals the depravity of ourselves more than the depravity of our young.

  • Everyone Can Learn to Code

    Everyone Can Learn to Code

    “When did you learn to code?”

    I get asked this a lot. It’s not really a “when” question so much as it’s a “why” question.

    I’ve always been good at being able to figure stuff out. A few weeks back we bought curtains that were too long for our windows and I had to lean on skills from my 8th grade home economics class to figure out how to hem them. That’s kind of a normal thing for me. Do a little research, a little trial and error, a little asking for help, and I can figure most things out.

    This has been an attribute that I’ve come to rely on. I can always figure something out. I’ve done it twice in the past 24 hours.

    Why I Learned to Code

    That’s essentially why I learned to code things like websites, work with servers, etc. I learned because I had to figure it out. It didn’t look that hard and the cost of creating a website was more than the little churches I worked for could afford. (They complained about the $7/month we spent on hosting the website!) As I learned more I started to fiddle around with my own stuff, then I did a lot of that when we launched YMX in 2005. And from there it just kind of took off.

    I made things happen for YMX, then people started asking me for help, then I started figuring out that I should charge people for that. And then McLane Creative was born, we sold YMX to Youth Specialties in 2008, I learned more, we built stuff there, and when I left YS in 2011 I had a line of people asking for help.

    To this day I have never hung out the shingle and said I was looking for help on a website.

    And, right, I could easily make a lot more money building WordPress and mobile app properties with McLane Creative than I do with the Cartel if I really wanted to go after it. The only reason I don’t is missional. I wholeheartedly believe in the mission of The Youth Cartel and am dedicating all of my time to it.

    Why You Should Learn to Code

    Code literacy is the new literacy.

    Reason #1: Understanding Your World

    Whether it’s understanding the basics… HTML and CSS… or more advanced languages and syntaxes, so much of how our world operates and will operate going forward is driven by the code with runs the software which runs the devices. (From your cell phone to your fridge to your car to your coffee maker. It’s all

    To understand– even the basis for how a device works and what makes things tick— is to understand the very core of modern life. When you learn the basics of coding you get a behind the scenes look at how everything technological actually works and that opens your mind to both the limitations and possibilities that are out there.

    Reason #2: It’s a DIY Culture

    Allow me to let you in a not-so-secret secret. All coders help other coders, even beginners. Everything I’ve learned about coding or building websites (or businesses or hemming curtains) I learned on the internet. I’ve been to a couple conferences but I’ve never taken a traditional programming course. Everything I know about all of that stuff I’ve learned because I Googled “How do I ______.” And the truth is that some of the most successful programmers/coders out there are doing the exact same thing.

    I’d rather show you where to find the answers to your questions than you to pay me to do it for me. Why? Because in 2 months when you want to do something else, I don’t really want you to hire me again… I’d much rather you send me a link to your site and/or Github and say… “Dude, look what I did!

    Any time I’m approached about a project I first sniff out how much of the work they are willing to take on themselves. If it’s zero, I’m usually going to pass. And the more they are willing to do and learn, the more I get excited. That’s a core tenant of the Open Source community. We are all contributors, we are all bug fixers, we are all coders, we all have ideas, we all try stuff, we all make ourselves experts but helping one another out for the sake of making the community better.

    Reason #3: There’s Unlimited Opportunity for Growth and Income if You’ll Learn to Code

    I’ve already shared that the only thing holding me back from unlimited income in the WordPress world is that I’m dedicated to another mission.

    This makes me think of a guy like Scott Bolinger, who has been a part of the WordPress community here in SoCal for a while, you’d bump into him at meet-ups and WordCamps, who was developing for other people and (I think) doing a bunch of freelance stuff. Then about a year ago he started working hard on this idea of connecting an existing code base for mobile apps to the core code base of WordPress. If he could figure out how to marry the two, people would pay to license that bridge and be able to launch and operate iOS and Android apps using WordPress. (WP currently runs about 20% of all internet sites.)

    In December, he wrote about AppPresser becoming a product that was generating $30,000 a month in sales. I think anyone can look at that product, with limitless potential on reaching 20% of all internet websites, and go… yeah, this could easily be something generating $100,000 in monthly sales very, very soon.

    I’m not saying that you can go from making $0 a month to $100,000 in a year. But I am saying that if you’ll take the time to learn some skills in coding, you can very easily teach yourself skills to do your present job better or easily go from $0 – $1000/month. Quite simply put, there are far more jobs out there for even entry level coders than there are people to do the work.

    How You Can Learn to Code

    I want to point you to three learning opportunities, all are free.

    1. Codeacademy Hour of Code – I love what Codeacademy is doing! Take this entry-level 1-hour course on your phone or desktop… I think this should be compulsory for everyone. So far 24,000,000 have taken a free course on Codeacademy. If you know someone who is between jobs or wants to try something on the side, you can learn more there in a week than elsewhere in a year. (I do lessons when I’m bored!)
    2. Harvard Open Learning Initiative – One of my favorite movie lines ever comes from Good Will Hunting. Will says, “you dropped a hundred and fifty grand on a *%@*% education you coulda got for a dollah fifty in late chahges at the public library. Well, the school Will was referring to now offers some of their classes to anyone willing to take them for absolutely free. How do you like dem apples? 
    3. Stanford on iTunes U – Stanford University, you know, the one right at the heart of the Silicon Valley, also offers online courses absolutely free to anyone willing. They were the very first to do so and I’ve learned a bunch from them about programming, specifically mobile apps. How about a lecture on Programming Methodology? It’s free. Or maybe you need some inspiration? How about a lecture series called Entrepreneurial Thought Leaders featuring guest lectures by some of the world’s premier experts? Free on iTunes if only you’ll press the subscribe button. How to Start a Start-up? You guessed it, free.

    Wrap-Up

    As I’ve said many times in many venues. We don’t have an unemployment problem in this country. We have an unemployable problem. If I knew the right person, right now in the right location, I’d hire them. I have several initiatives that are excellent, that’ll work, I just don’t have the right people and it drives me crazy.

    But I see far too many people having skills that I don’t need and very few with skills I do need. (Or willing to learn)

    Too many people think education is a barrier for them. Too many people think they don’t know the right people. Too many people think that they are too young or too old to be taken seriously. And too many people think that they can’t possibly need to know new skills because they are perfectly content doing what they are doing.

    Those are all barriers between what you are doing today and your potential.

    If someone is willing to learn every day, willing to be ambitious, and willing to ask for help… the American Dream is alive and well.

  • Potential

    Potential

    I saw this tweet this morning.

    I don’t know about you, but it motivates me.

    It’s crazy to think about how important decisions you make as a 17 year high school senior are. And it’s incredible how much positive and negative things said about you can motivate you.

    I’ll never forget my stepmom saying something like, “You aren’t college material. Even if you go away to college, you’ll never graduate. The best you’ll ever do is community college.

    Thanks for the motivation.

    Proved you wrong.

    Next challenge, please.

    Continuous effort – not strength or intelligence – is the key to unlocking our potential.
    ~ Winston Churchhill, overcame professional failure

    I don’t know what the negative voice is in your head. But I do know this: Use it to prove them wrong.

  • The Summer of 95

    The Summer of 95

    Today’s Throwback Thursday is to July 1995, the summer that Kristen and I became a couple. 

    • We were not quite 19 years old when we met, set up on a blind date at the end of our freshmen year at Moody.
    • This photo is in front of the Hesburgh Library at Notre Dame. Football fans know this mural, Word of Life, as Touchdown Jesus. The library and the campus itself were a bit of a refuge my senior year of high school. I lived pretty far from school and I used (cough, trespassed) at the library at least twice a week to study, read books, or just hang out.
    • Kristen came down to visit, spending the fourth of July weekend with my family at our cottage in Southwestern Michigan. Looking back, she was so brave.
    • Speaking of brave… look at that hand on her knee. [shakes head]
    • We took a few of these photos. Kristen’s camera had a timer, we’d set the timer and run to pose. Old school selfies.
    • Not sure about that outfit. Suede shoes and a long-sleeved silk button up shirt. Kristen clearly went with the comfortable route.
    • Also not in this photo? All the metal shavings from my dad’s clutch. I borrowed his truck to drive around but had no experience driving a stick shift. Oops.