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How Far is Too Far, part 2

 

I haven’t otherwise answered the post from a few days ago, so here are the notes from my talk on Wednesday night. I’ll be getting caught up on all my talk notes over at the LF site pretty soon.

Wild, Wacky, World of
Relationships, Part 2

How Far is Too Far?

Nick & S story:
Sleeping together naked

Series Goal:

I want to see all of you to grow up and
have healthy, happy, and simple adult relationships.

 

A Place

 

to Start 

1. What we are
talking about is Christian living, this isn’t a salvation issue. You can
royally mess this up and still be a believer.

2. To some degree
all relationships begin with an infatuation stage.

 

What in the world do you mean by relationships?

Definition of “relationship.” A relationship is anything with the opposite sex above
and beyond what is normal in a friendship.

 

 

Story:

Remember Nick & S: They
are an example typical case of infatuation.

 

 

We
can laugh at these guys, because we can clearly see that this is infatuation.

 

 

What do you mean by infatuation?

 Infatuation is
artificially lifting someone up to a level that is not healthy…

o They cease to be
a person, but become an idea

o The actual person
is beneath the relationship

 Infatuation is on
par with idolatry

 Infatuation is
damaging spiritually and emotionally.

 When you are
infatuated with someone, nothing else matters

 

We see this in other avenues…
like people who are infatuated with video games, hunting, the internet, etc.
Infatuation puts people out of whack.

 

David and Bathsheba

 

Let’s look at a classic case
of infatuation

 

2 Samuel 11:1-5

1 In the spring, at the time when
kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king’s men and the whole
Israelite army. They destroyed the Ammonites and besieged Rabbah. But David
remained in

Jerusalem

.

    2
One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the
palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, 3
and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, “Isn’t this
Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite?” 4
Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her.
(She had purified herself from her uncleanness.) Then [a] she went back home. 5 The woman
conceived and sent word to David, saying, “I am pregnant.”

Some questions for you…

 Why was David alone?

 What was David
doing on the roof?

 Did he know who
she was?

 Did he know she
was married?

 What about from
Bathsheba’s perspective, didn’t she know she was wrong?

 Wasn’t this whole
thing convenient?

 

Things to learn from David’s
mistake

1. Idol time…
bad!

2. Eyes first…
they are the gateway to the soul

3. Wanting what
is not yours to have… bad!

 

What David sacrificed?

 

 Faith- discovered
spiritual darkness

 Family- lost his
son

 Friends- Nathan
was not impressed

 Future- legacy of
adultery

How far is too far?

(I don’t want to get accused of being to vague here)

 Let me give you the biblical principle here and then
you can talk in your small groups about all the details.

DUCT TAPE LINE ON THE
FLOOR

 

This is the line:

– On one side is the happy world of purity. This is guilt
free livin’.

– Across the line is “too far.” Guilt, shame and false
promises live over there.

Perfectly simple,
right?
All I need to know is what is the line between “purity” and
“impurity,” right?

It’s just a line…
don’t cross it and I’m fine, right?

This is one of those places where the “wisdom of fools” is
wrong.

 Sex is purely a physical thing…

 If you mess up, it’s no big deal…

 Sex is expected in a “good relationship”…

 Sex is perfectly normal in high school relationships…

 Sex is a need of the body and a right to all humans…

All of those things are false.

Sex is a bigger deal
emotionally and spiritually than it is physically.

Don’t trust me…

1 Corinthians

6:18

 

 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are
outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy
Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your
body.

See… you can search the Bible and you can find out what the
difference is between sexual purity and immorality. (do that in small groups)

Check it out… what is
too far?
What does Paul say is too far?

 FLEE- The answer is simply… if you aren’t FLEEing, it’s
too far.

Why?

 All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but
sexual sin is committed against your own body.

 Earlier in this chapter, Paul tells us that sex is more
spiritual than physical, “The two become one flesh” (1 Cor

6:16

)

 Your body is special to God… Paul says its “A temple of
the Holy Spirit”

But fleeing isn’t any
fun!

 I guess it’s all a matter of perspective.

 It’s not that sex is bad, its that sex is for a
specific time/place… MARRIAGE

 Inside of the safe boundaries of marriage

 In fact… God’s goal for you is simple…

He wants to see you grow up to have happy, healthy, and
simple adult relationships.

PRAY

By Adam McLane

Adam McLane is a partner at The Youth Cartel, co-author of A Parent's Guide to Understanding Social Media, blogger of 10+ years, and a fan of all things San Diego State University Aztecs.

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