Current Affairs

Matching Scandals: How college admissions and criminalization of asylum seekers are linked

You all see the connection between the college admissions scandal and locking up asylum seekers like criminals, right? It’s obvious, right?

Here’s why “some people” are worried about “those people.” Children of immigrants are “taking their spots.” Notice that as system-wide enrollment has increased who has benefited.

In the University of California system admissions are blind to ethnicity and legal status. Since children of immigrants outpace growth of children of native born persons, you see anomalies, like Asians getting 40% of the seats at UC schools despite being only 11% of the California population.

In other words, kids of native born parents, the former majority ethnic group, are struggling to compete on a level playing field with children of immigrants. And so it’s no surprise that they cheat. (No different than white flight of the 1970s, really.)

That’s why you see Trumpers talking crazy about “they are stealing our jobs.” First generation people aren’t but if the children of immigrants can get in our school system they’ll outperform children of native born adults.

That’s enough to stir up a little racism, isn’t it? As we’ve learned, it is.

When you look at the charging docs of the admissions scandal you see kids with SATs in the 900 range. These are children of wealthy parents, who have access to every educational opportunity. But they are lazy and entitled. Their parents knew they couldn’t compete.


At its core that’s why nativists like Stephen Miller are doing what they are doing to try to keep immigrant kids out. He knows that his peers are dumb, entitled, and lazy. Too afraid to compete fairly he seeks to lock in a generational advantage.


Justice is a Funny Thing

Watching Megan go through the college admissions process has been really hard.

On the one hand, I fully get why we have quotas and the need for diversity. I support it. If I were an elected official I’d vote for affirmative action in college admissions every time. Why? Because achievement isn’t just a personal accomplishment it’s also the result of a system that benefits some more than others. As a result, to make things more equitable, you have to favor one group or class over those who may have been more privileged the whole time.

On the other hand, it sucks when your kid has worked her butt off and the simple reality is it probably won’t matter because the scales are tipped in favor of others.

In high school, she literally could not have done more. She went to the only high school she got into via the lottery system. She took the hardest schedule her school has ever produced, completing 4 years of math in 2, taking every AP class she could, every dual immersion class they offered, she’s a class officer, volunteered like crazy, and interned along the way. She got the highest PSAT, then SAT, in her school’s history. She’ll graduate with the highest GPA in the school’s history– a reluctant valedictorian. And while it doesn’t show up on her transcript in most of her classes she finished with far more than 100% because she did all the extra credit, too. Because that’s what she does. Everything.

Admissions officers will never know she did all of these things not because of her school’s amazing curriculum but despite its failures. Her counselor and the principal barely knew her name until the day she got her SAT’s back in the Spring of junior year. But they know her name now. So do their donors. In truth, she’s never had a science teacher for an entire year. So many teachers… Turnover in charters is a problem and boy has she suffered through it. By graduation only 2 teachers will remain from her first year. Maybe. Three different people taught her AP Chemistry class last year because they quit, got fired, or just dropped off the planet. Consequently, they only got through half the material. So when she wasn’t in China last summer she completely re-taught herself her AP Chemistry class, all by herself, so she’d be prepared to take the SAT subject test… which she did while we were on vacation. Of course, she did great on that too because that’s what she does.

Looking back, this kid couldn’t have done more. And she made it look easy. Fun almost.

I think it’s awesome when kids get into their dream schools. Children of immigrants, refugee kids, kids who were homeless, or in foster care, or disadvantaged because of their race, ethnicity, gender identity. I cry when I watch videos of those kids opening up their emails and learning that their dream school selected them.

But my kid has dreams too, you know? I long to watch her celebrate like the kids in those videos. I want her to know that all that hard work has paid off. She too is hoping one of those big, fancy schools selects her. And who knows? Maybe they will? But probably not.

Over the past few months I’ve watched her pour herself into selecting the right schools for the right reasons, working tirelessly on essays– pulling all-nighters, getting recommendations, and everything else while raising her GPA even higher and managing an internship.

I say all of this because it’s been hard to watch Megan navigate an admissions system that, because of reasons we intellectually agree with, is built to favor things she can’t change about herself. She’s done all of the work but this system isn’t built as a meritocracy, it simply doesn’t favor her. She’s too normal. She’s just another middle class white girl with perfect everything. Dime a dozen.

And so we wait. She gets it. We get it. I get it.

But it’s hard.

Justice is a Funny Thing


I wrote this angsty little essay on January 4th, 2019 as a reflection on all of the effort that goes into just applying to colleges. At the time she had submitted everything and was just beginning two months of waiting.

I decided to hold the essay instead of publishing it in the moment so that the dust could settle on the process. I’m glad I did.

Ultimately, she was accepted at 5 of the 11 schools she applied to. 5 acceptances, 5 rejections, 1 waitlist. Everything is peachy.


Now that college admissions season is over

College admissions season is officially over until October. 

Having gone through it for the first time I can confirm a few things: 

  1. The college admissions system is broken from top to bottom. 
  2. There’s no silver bullet or obvious solution for fixing it on the horizon.
  3. It’s way more complex than it should be.
  4. It’s way more competitive than it should be. 
  5. That complexity and competition is the perfect recipe for cheating. 
  6. Outside observers decry it all as silly, that it really doesn’t matter, but in actually we all have to acknowledge it really does matter. Where you go to undergrad and grad school can have massive implications on your life. We all know that so let’s stop pretending. And it’s exactly the “it’s silly” attitude that provides the cover for the cheating. 

I’ve been relatively quiet about this, but I’ve got a few things to publish here on the blog about it now that the dust has settled.

Current Affairs

What Makes America Great is Diversity

Seeking asylum is legal. Receiving asylum seekers is who we are. Diversity of race, religion, and ethnicity is what makes our country great.

Adam McLane

College Admissions Process Reflection

Yesterday, our eldest child received the last of her college admission decisions. She was with a friend and after she sent us texts to update and react to the decision the next thing she sent us was, “It’s over!” Amen. Hallelujah. 

This process is technically from October to March 31st, but in actuality it started probably a year earlier. So getting this phase of it over with feels great for everyone. 

Process Reflection

Here are my reflections and reactions on where we are after this phase of the process. (With her actually making a decision over the next few weeks excluded.) 

  • A test of parenting adolescents: I can see how it’s easy to over or under parent this process. We stayed engaged but we didn’t take it over. As independent as she is, she needed some parenting at times, encouragement often. But there’s a big difference between being there for them to offer input and expecting them to navigate it on their own. I feel like what we offered her was support, encouragement, and accountability. I’m glad we didn’t get in the way or do it for her. But I’m also glad we laid down some boundaries, too. 
  • Put your heart into it. It’s not easy seeing your kid get their feelings hurt. Since she really wanted to go to all the places she applied to, when the rejections came they hurt. And that’s OK. But at the same time, when those acceptances came, it felt great. That’s real life. You don’t know what success feels like if you don’t experience failure. 
  • Run your own race: Everyone puts expectations on you in this process. Teachers, who are hugely influential, want you to apply to the schools they went to or dreamt of attending. At conferences last Fall various teachers told me 4 different schools she should apply to. (I think she applied to 3 of them, that’s the power of teacher influence.) I kept thinking, “Does she even want to go to these places or is just because a teacher pushed it?” Also, your parents have their aspirations. I mean, she’s smarter than us, so we want to see her go somewhere awesome, too! Friends at school are like, “You’re the smartest person I know, you should go to Harvard.” Into all of this you need to ask yourself, “What do I want to do? Where do I want to live? Where do I see myself next year?” Because the reality is that all of those expectations put on you don’t matter and none of those people are going to live in that dorm next year with you. All that matters is finding the best place for your next step in life. It’s like running a race. Chances are you aren’t going to win. But if you concentrate on running your best race you’ll be satisfied with the results. 
  • She has her integrity. At the end of the day, the kids applying to the tippy top schools are statistically all the same. They all have perfect GPAs, all have stellar SAT/ACTs, all did dual enrollment, all of them are in the top 5% of their graduating classes. They would all do well at an Ivy League school or top research university. So the decisions are really about other things. Your race/gender/”hook”, your intended major, your extra curricular activities, and your essays. Three of those things you can either flat out lie about, exaggerate, or cheat on to bolster your admissions possibilities. (Facts only.) I felt like she undersold most of her extra curriculars and we could have helped her more on her essays… but she felt like that was cheating and we backed off. It didn’t matter to her that other people had help with their essays or someone to plump up those ECs, what mattered to her was that her apps were fully her and her words, chips fall where they may. I respect that a ton. 
  • She learned something fun on Ivy Day. She got the best result from an application that she spent the least amount of time on. She even felt like the interview went meh. For someone who tries really hard on everything I love that she learned the lesson that sometimes you succeed when you just wing it. Procrastinators unite!
  • Don’t worry about the money. For real. Ignore the sticker. Unless you are rich you aren’t going to pay that full tuition/room & board. For example, the average tuition/room & board for the places Megan was accepted is $38,321.50. But the average of what we’d actually pay is $14,115. This is actually getting better as more and more schools are embracing a “no loan guarantee”. This means that when you do FAFSA you won’t be asked to take out loans beyond your expected family contribution. (Great news for savers like us.) 
  • Celebrate those acceptances! March is a gauntlet of acceptance and rejections. We went out and celebrated every acceptance with a dinner and I’m glad we did. 
  • Don’t hate the rejections. Since she only applied to schools she legitimately liked, getting rejected hurt a little but she doesn’t hate them. In fact, most of them she’ll probably apply to for grad school. 
  • It really does feel random. Since admissions officers are building a diverse class that’ll fit into their institutions… who actually gets admitted where really does feel random. It’s about so much more than stats. That’s why it’s so important that your essays are seen as a way to share your personality, not a way to parrot back to them what you think they want to hear from their admissions presentation. (Every admissions presentation said this. Listen to them.)
  • It really is a game. “Are private schools targeting top students they likely will not accept just to get the $70 application fee?” In our experience, yep. Not just for the $70 but also because the more people they reject the better their reputation/rankings get. I’m not being cynical but that’s how the game is played. Knowing what we know now we’d absolutely do everything the same.